We are hitting 200 posts! I can’t believe how far we have come in the past two years. To do something special, I wanted to let you all ask me questions and learn a little bit more about me, the site, and the topics we cover.
One Q & A quickly turned into two. You all submitted some great questions and I had the best time answering them. To kick off this article series, I decided to start with the fun stuff.
Here are a few personal questions that were asked about me, my family, and my life in general. Enjoy!
Beard growth. How do you do it?
This question was submitted by Jeff Duncan Morris. He is an excellent comic book creator. I hope to have him featured on the site soon. Until then, you can find his work at I Build A Mountain of Thunder.
Thank you for noticing my superior beard. Just kidding of course. However, I do get this question asked a lot. I never really thought that my beard was anything special. The amount of compliments I get both in public and online now have me thinking otherwise.
A little bit of background about me. I have a gigantic underbite. It was fixed in my early teen years with orthodontics, but a growth spurt had other plans. A few months after getting my braces and retainer off, my jaw shot back out.
Luckily, I have been able to grow a beard since about the same time. The beard is a nice compliment to my large and protruding jawline. The only time I haven’t had a beard was during late high school and college when I worked in food service.
I can talk about this all day (maybe I will write an article in the future), but there are a few big factors when it comes to having a nice beard:
- The beard shape needs to fit the shape of your face. Because of my underbite I have more of a rectangular face. This is why I have a downward square-ish beard that follows my jawline. I keep it close on the sides and let it grow down.
- Regular trimming is needed. Just like the hair on your head, facial hair needs upkeep. You want your beard to be made up of healthy, growing hair. Removing split ends and damaged hair will help you keep everything in place.
- Products are an enhancement, not a solution. Beard oils, conditioners, and wax will give your beard a shinier and more lustrous look. However, this only matters if your beard is already trimmed and shaped correctly. As one of my favorite actors, Matt Berry, once said: “Why put bay windows on a shit house?”
Following these basic steps, paired with a bit of patience, should give you the beard that you want. I have found that your beard is only as good as the work you put into it.
What Walking Dead character do you relate to the most? Both comic and show.
This question was submitted by Drew Van Genderen. Drew is a close friend of mine and the creator of the independent comics podcast For the Love of Indie. I also recently interviewed him for Effective Nerd.
Even though she is not my favorite character, I feel that I relate the most to Michonne. We are both stoic and virtue-driven. She keeps a lot of her pain on the inside.
I feel the same way about Tyreese as well. Even though we didn’t get to see him in the show all that much, he is one of my favorite characters in the comic book. Much like Michonne, Tyreese is quiet and tough.
I would love to have a more fun answer, like Negan or Rick. Honestly, for a lot of my life I have been ashamed of my timid behavior. I spent a lot of time trying to be a loud and confident Negan, or Rick type.
It wasn’t until a few years ago that I found my confidence and finally began to feel comfortable with being “the quiet guy”. Don’t get me wrong, I will talk your ear off given the chance. However, when it comes to conflict and decision-making, I would rather keep my mouth shut and let my actions do the talking.
How did you propose to your wife?
The next few questions were submitted by @damnitbatman on Twitter. She was one of the first people I followed when I created the Effective Nerd Twitter account. On top of being extremely awesome and friendly, she also has a phenomenal pinup fashion style.
This is a fun story. My wife and I are both huge Harry Potter fans. When I decided that I was going to ask her to marry me, I knew it had to be in true Harry Potter fashion.
I ordered her a custom Harry Potter engagement ring from Etsy. The gemstone is being held up by two owls. I also got a custom ring box with “Always” engraved into it.
When the ring came we were in the middle of rewatching all of the movies. It was obvious what had to be done at this point. I was going to wait until we learn about Snape’s true intentions, and propose right as he said “Always”.
Now this would have been great if I was smooth and suave about it. However, I was also very nervous. We had just made a flask of Carolina Reaper infused tequila, and we hit that baby hard.
So there we are, tipsy and watching Deathly Hallows. The famous line is spoken, and I kind of clumsily hand her the ring box. I incorrectly assumed that my now-wife would be too speechless and excited about the ring.
However, in her ball-busting nature, she looked at me and said “don’t you have something to ask me?”
She still makes fun of me for it. In fact, when I told her you asked me this question, she told me to make sure I included what I told you in the previous paragraph.
What’s a food that you hate?
I honestly don’t hate a lot of foods. I cook every meal from scratch. My wife and I love trying new recipes. I think that everything can be good when prepared in the correct style.
That said, fuck cottage cheese, haha.
What’s your favorite color?
My favorite color is pink. It is just so warm and inviting. I love the way it pops with other colors. Growing up as a punk rock teenager I loved how it looked when paired with black.
There is also, of course, the gender norms associated with the color pink. I was rocking pink clothing and accessories long before Kanye made it cool for guys. I can’t even count the amount of homophobic and disgusted looks and comments that came my way.
I thought of wearing pink the same way I thought of my piercings and colored hair. It was a litmus test on the people I interacted with. If you were going to be childish or rude to me about subjective aesthetic choices, then I knew not to trust you.
Will we be seeing you at any of the West Coast comic conventions this year?
This question was submitted by the talented comic book writer Dillon Gilbertson. He writes a fantastic series called Sweet Heart. One of his stories is also featured in the horror comic anthology Local Haunts.
Sadly, you will not see me on the West Coast this year. The last time I flew on a plane my eardrum suctioned itself shut. The only relief was to have my ear electively ruptured. It has never been the same since. I would love to make it to the West Coast some day, but that is quite the trek from Upstate New York.